tOm@kO's life ~*_*~

herm... 2006 is coming to an end...
just wondering where i should be end of the year.

I would be at home watching tv?
haha.. no this year i would be out of my house.
i would be at S'pore celebrate the merry merry new year...

hehe... so hoping everything would be alright..
and the flood will be gone by the time when i wanted to go s'pore.

actually i'm a bit looking forward for the trip.
and i think it would be good for me since it seems that it should be the time for me to be independent.
starting to explore things myself.
hoping that i would be prepared for the trip.

hoping that i would be better when i'm back from my trip.
hoping i could gain more from the trip i have.

huh... end up i did not take too much picture during our annual dinner...
why cos some c2pid fuller told me.. 'nonono... i got camera here.. it's okay... i can use my cemera to take'
ah... 'zhen yang' looking down on my camera kah?

okay... that's fine with me...
no point of being upset till today.

actually wanna wish thanks to my friend who help me to make up and do my hair as well as my nails...
jus feel a bit it's not like me...

my bf say.. you have to learn to make up...
it's a kind of respect... to others...
bla bla bla bla...

but it's so not tee chong...
'suan la'... see how things go lo...

painting finger nails...
it's so like me...

wanna see how's it's like?

please wait for the picture which will be posted here soon :P

五隻毛毛蟲的故事
來源：網路流傳
第一隻毛毛蟲

話說第一隻毛毛蟲，有一天爬呀爬呀過山河，終於來到這棵蘋果樹下。

他並不知道這是一棵蘋果樹，也不知樹上長滿了紅紅的蘋果。

當他看到同伴們往上爬時，不知所以的就跟著往上爬。

沒有目的，不知終點，更不知生為何求、死為何所。

他的最後結局呢？也許找到了一顆大蘋果，幸福的過了一生；也可能在樹葉中迷了路，顛沛流離胡塗一生。

不過可以確定的是，大部分的蟲都是這樣活著的，也不去煩惱什麼是生命意義，倒也輕鬆許多。

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第二隻毛毛蟲

有一天，第二隻毛毛蟲也爬到了蘋果樹下。

他知道這是一棵蘋果樹，也確定他的「蟲生目標」就是找到一棵大蘋果。

問題是...他並不知道大蘋果會長在什麼地方？但他猜想：大蘋果應該長在大枝葉
上吧！

於是他就慢慢地往上爬，遇到分支的時候，就選擇較粗的樹枝繼續爬。

當然在這個毛蟲社會中，也存在考試制度，如果有許多蟲同時選擇同一個分支，可是要舉行聯考來決定誰才有資格通過大樹枝。

幸運的，這隻毛毛蟲一路過關斬將，每次都能第一志願的選上最好的樹枝，最後他從一枝名為「台大」的樹枝上，找到了一顆大蘋果。

不過他發現這顆大蘋果並不是全樹上最大的，頂多只能稱是局部最大。

因為在它的上面還有一顆更大的蘋果，號稱「老板」，是由另一隻毛毛蟲爬過一個名為「學徒」的樹枝才找到的。

令他洩氣的是，這個學徒分支是他當年不屑於爬的一棵細小的樹枝。

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第三隻毛毛蟲

接著，第三隻毛毛蟲也來到了樹下。這隻毛毛蟲相當難得，小小年紀，卻自己研製了一副望遠鏡。

在還未開始爬時，就先利用望遠鏡蒐尋一番，找到了一棵超大蘋果。

同時，他發覺當從下往上找路時，會遇到很多分支，有各種不同的爬法；但若從上往下找路時，卻只有一種爬法。

他很細心的從蘋果的位置，由上往下反推至目前所處的位置，記下這條確定的路
徑。

於是，他開始往上爬了，當遇到分支時，他一點也不慌張，因為他知道該往那條路走不必跟著一大堆蟲去擠破頭。

譬如說，如果他的目標是一顆名叫「教授」的蘋果，那應該爬「升學」這條路；如果目標是「老板」，那應該爬「學徒」這分支；若目標是「議長」，也許早就該爬「賭場保鑣」這條路了。

最後，這隻毛毛蟲「應該」會有一個很好的結局，因為他己具備了「先覺」的條件了。但也許會有一些意外的結局出現，因為毛毛蟲的爬行相當緩慢，從預定蘋果到抵達時，需要一段時間。

當他抵達時，也許蘋果已被別蟲捷足先登，也許蘋果已熟透而爛掉了...

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第四隻毛毛蟲

第四隻毛毛蟲可不是一隻普通的蟲，同時具有先知先覺的能力。

他不僅先覺知道自己要何種蘋果，更先知──知道未來蘋果將如何成長。

因此當他帶著那「先覺」的望眼鐿時，他的目標並不是一顆大蘋果，而是一芽含苞待放的蘋果花。

他計算著自己的時程，並估計當他抵達時，這朵花正好長成一顆成熟的大蘋果，而且他將是第一個鑽入大快朵頤的蟲。

果其然，他獲得所應得的，從此過著幸福快樂的日子。

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第五隻毛毛蟲

毛毛蟲的故事本來應該到此結束了。

因為所有故事的結局都必須是正面的且富有教育意義。

但仍有不少讀者好奇：第五隻毛毛蟲到底怎麼了...？

其實他什麼也沒做，就在樹下躺著納涼，而一顆顆大蘋果就從天而降在他的身邊。

因為樹上某一大片樹枝早就被他的家族佔領了。

他的爺爺、爸爸、哥哥們盤據在某一樹幹上，禁止其他蟲進入。

然後蘋果成熟時，就一顆顆的丟給底下的子孫們撿食。

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奉勸諸位，若你不是含著金湯匙出生也不是先知先覺的第四隻毛毛蟲的話，就乖乖腳踏實地的打拼吧，

可不要妄想檢到大蘋果，因為反而會被砸死的。

this is a e-mail i received form an anonomous sender :)

2006 New Year Resolution

the following is an extract of the above mentioned blog posting:-

"okay now i just simply set a few goals and see what i would be able to do with it.

1. get first 5 in the coming tax trainning for the company. (yes it is being achieved, i got first place for the trainning)

2. help out my group leader and try to get as much exposure as possible. (yes being incentive application, but it seems that i breakdown sometimes along the way... exposure wise.. i gain a lot and it really help to make me to be more mature in handling my work)

3. be a more open person and try to know more people in the future. (moving to a new floor at 12 floor, yes i manage to know more people because there are more staff at 12 floor and also because i got first place in the trainning and more poeple know me. however now i just feel that i wanna be a low profile person :))

4. try to control my weight and work out during weekend (so far my weight has not increase too much but sad to say it doesn't reduce either... so i found it doesn't work out well enough for this resolution)

5. continue blogging (yes have been blogging all year long but it seems that i spend time working at home from june to november rather than posting how i feel and what i feel. i think that's why i'm a bit streesed out)

6. learn how to drive by end of this year (driving huh... to have somemore room for improvement. can drive already.. but if wanna let them (i.e. my parents and bf to be convienced that i can drive to work i seems long long way to go)

7. buy and read more books especaily english books (this is the worst new year resolution. i have bought a lot of books but rarely read them.. i bought demand and angle the mandrin version also the da vinci code... however no new english book are being purchased. therefore this have to be improved)

8. maintain a good relationship with my family especially my parents (having a better relationship with my parents and also it seems that they have accepted my bf better and more convienced and secure that we are together ;))

9. get a promotion during the year. (yes being promoted from junior to semi senior.. actually looking forward for a further promotion.. working working damn hard for it)

10.treat myself better (this is a question i'm wondering and asking myself all the time. is it that i'm not treating myself better? why should i loose out to what i like as compared to a job which i work like a 'monkey' and i get peanuts in return. but i always tell myself job satisfaction is what i have been looking for all this time.)"

please give me some feed back if you have some tought regarding my new year resolution this year.. so that i could improved on my new new year resolution 2007 :)

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Much Regards
Tee Chong

trying very very hard for things to be at the correct position.
however things seems like they do not want to go the way they you want it to be.
it seems that things always goes against you.

try very hard to overcome it.
just when you think that it's over.
yet it's not over.

just when you think that things are getting smooth and you need not worries too much regarding this issue.
tried very hard to overcome it...
and yet i have a strong sense that things are not where they suppose to be.
it seems that i'm either wrong or i'm bad...

it seems to be affecting my performance.
and i'm suppose to be the one who people should be putting the blame on?
sometimes i wonder why and i wonder how.

i'm just feeling that there are just too much responsibility on my shoulder that i should just let the thing go...

praying that tomorrow is a brand new day.. and things would be getting on well soon :)
please pray for me as well ;)

　　她觉得她爱过他。很矫情的。

　　春天，家门口的树上总是绽放或白或粉的不知名的小花，满树都是。她喜欢这些花儿，所以总是蹲在那些树下，倚着树看天发呆。他站在她面前，挡住她眼前的那片天空，她嘻笑着把他推开。他抱她起来，任凭她的拳打脚踢雨点般地落在他的身上，背她在背上，一直走回家。他说，乖。她把脸埋在他的脖颈闲，用脸颊磨蹭着他的耳朵，耳鬓厮磨的，亲密的样子。

　　她和异性的朋友打打闹闹，他在旁边笑着看着，看她制服那些让着她的朋友时骄傲的样子，听她指着他告诉那些朋友，快，叫大哥，我就是你们大嫂。

　　他跟她细数自己身上的每一道伤痕。告诉她，这条是哪一天和谁在哪里打架留下的。看到她认真地瞪着眼睛看，他用自己的鼻子蹭她的鼻子，说，小笨蛋，不要那么担心的样子。

　　夏天下倾盆大雨的时候，她拉着他在雨里狂奔，浑身湿透。他抱紧她，说，我不要别的男人和我分享宝贝的性感。

　　秋天，他们会捡各自看到的第一片落叶给对方，把彼此的叶子悉心地夹在自己最喜欢的书里。

　　她的生日在深秋。他给她买很多很多的东西，不管她喜不喜欢，都会买很多很多放在一个很大的盒子里要送给她。在她面前却装着忘记了的样子，看她生气地噘着嘴，他捂着嘴偷偷地坏笑。

　　冬天，他会解开大衣的扣子，把她抱在里面。他的体温总是那么高，让她不知道这温度该怎样延续。

　　看悲情的电影，她会哭得稀里哗啦的。他坐在旁边，抱她在怀里，良久不说一句话，直到听见她哭累了睡着了平静的呼吸声，在黑暗里，他一个人享受这一份来之不易的安宁。

　　那时候，他们都觉得他们永远不会分开。爱对方，用一辈子都不够。

　　他们终于还是被迫要分两地，很旧的情节，只会出现在下三滥的小说里。他们没有什么山盟海誓永不分离，他们分开了，真的分开了。很彻底，QQ拉了黑名单，MSN阻止掉，手机号码删掉。他坚信，分手就代表不合适，既然不合适，为什么还要有联系给对方和好的机会？

　　春天，他在他的城市送另外一个和她很像的女孩子回家。他对自己说，他可以胜任。他原本讨厌这个女孩子，只是她与她太像。缘分的小偏差，他接受了。

　　她在很多男人身旁徘徊，不喜欢的，以为自己喜欢的，最后还是无法接受。深夜里上网的时候，她还是会希望看见那个黑名单里的男人重新加她，对她说，他忘记不了。

　　夏天下倾盆大雨的时候，他为那个女子撑着伞，伞柄直直地立在两人之间。他突然想起他为她撑伞时伞柄那么倾斜，以至于每次他都有半边衣服湿透了。

　　她坐在家里，听着窗外雨哗啦啦的声音，一个人看一本书。旁边的手机调了静音，没有开震动，但是没有关机。静音是因为不想被打扰，不关机是因为她在等待一个永远不会打来的电话给自己打来的电话，或者只是一条简讯也好。

　　秋天，他捡自己看到的第一片落叶，夹在书里，把那本书放进自己平时天天背的背囊里。闲的时候，他会翻开书读两页，看看那片落叶。但是他总是那么忙，他要工作，还有那个女子。

　　她也捡起自己看到的第一片落叶，用双面胶贴在墙上，用马克笔在上面写，我的生日在秋天。朋友来的时候，她不再打闹，而是在满屋子的喧嚣中静静地看那片贴在墙上的落叶。

　　冬天，他收到那个女子给他的圣诞礼物，一副灰色的手套。他笑了笑，把手套放进柜子，觉得自己永远都不需要。当他走出门外，才发现，这座城市的冬天，原来这么寒冷。

　　她去商场，给自己买了很多的羽绒服和毛衣，以往的冬天，她从不需要这样多的衣服。她把自己裹成一个球，出门的时候，她很纳闷，为什么今年的冬天变得这么冷？

　　又一轮冬夏。

　　春天，她家路旁的树又开花了。她还是觉得她爱他，但是他离开了。

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erm.. some interesting story i found on the net... however i doesn't understand why you love a person so much yet you let him/her go?
is it because you love the person too much?
how to understand the feeling that you think you doesn't like that particular person yet however you keep on missing him/she and he/she keep on poping out of your mind :)

Over the past few months i just feel that i'm just like the train which had when off track, everything has messed up.

just feel that i've sacrifies too much and yet not getting the results that i need.
wondering why i keep on asking myself to go back to work on a saturday morning.
is it really necessary for my work?
what are the private time for myself?
wanna follow the footsteps of my manager?
i think the answer should be definately no..
cos i wanna have a life of my own.

just feeling that i've not taken care of myself.
have not taken care of my blog.
have not spend enough time with my family.
always ask myself is this what i wanna do?
it is time to change?

yes...
to change the way i work.
to change for the better.
to change to ........

wonder whether i should keep on staying a life like tat?
not really feeling very happy

but somehow somebody told me very long time ago,
life is not about happy and happy.
but i do think that when you are happy/satisfied, most of the problem can be easily solved...
hope that this would not trouble me for too long of my time :)

sometimes i wonder why things just come and go...

remembering 6/7 years ago, me and my friend were sitting on a bus and saying that how nice it would be should this place is being able to open a mc d... then it definately have many customers and it would be much much more convinient for us to go to eat mc d...

and months just right after that, we notice that the mc d had open there.

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few months ago, me and my bf were eating at the same mc d and we were chit-chatting and we were saying all the shops around the mc d has closed down, i wonder whether it will closed down in the near future?

and today.. is the last day of operation of this mc d at jalan ipoh....

so.. this is how things come and go...
and this is so called life.

词 曲:曹格

我的心唱首歌给你听
歌词是如此的甜蜜
可是我害羞我没有勇气
对你说一句我爱你

为什么你还是不言不语
难道(是)你不懂我的心
不管你用什么方式表明
我会对你说我愿意
千言万语里
只有一句话能
表白我的心
千言万语里
只有一句话就
能够让我们相偎相依

我爱你你是我的茱丽叶
茱丽叶
我愿意变成你的粱山伯
幸福的每一天
浪漫的每一夜
把爱
永远
不放开
i love you
我爱你你是我的罗密欧
罗密欧
我愿意变成你的祝英台
幸福的每一天
浪漫的每一夜
美丽的爱情祝福着未来

为什么你还是不言不语
不言不语
难道是你不懂我的心
不管你用什么方式表明
我会对你说我愿意

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beautiful love song realease recently :)
but i still wonder in nowadays whether love story similar to romeo and juliet do really exist in this really realistic world?

just realised that i'm not a very good gf...
cos i let you down again and again.
until you nearly give up hope on me...
i do hope you wouldn't

broken my promise many times.
it's just that i don't know how to request?
and i don't understand why aren't they are okay with me going back with you.

listening to fish's album all the time.
and realised that i'm sick last nite...
my nose i stuck.. keeping running and running... why? because it is sad and wanna run away from the reality... so it become the running nose...

then comes my throat... i dunno why it is so sore..
is it because i'm sad?
or it is because i'm just too tired..?????????????

or because the mr J sitting beside me bring all his virus and spread it to me d?
terrible la...
how to focus on work?
very sien to work like that...
there are ton and ton of work waiting for me and yet i do wonder whether i would have the capability to finished it.

i'm just too tired.
i'm just too lazy.
i'm wondering what i should i do next...
on leave?
take mc?
yer... i'm in doubt..

词曲:梁静茹

有时候会有些想念 他乡里温暖的阳光
那是我可以避雨的地方
有时候会有些彷徨 直到你来到我身旁
保护我像妈妈的手一样
这个时候你是我温暖的翅膀
让我飞到最安全角落

但愿你一直守护我 用力的紧紧拥抱我
陪着我找那下一步的我
但愿你一直听着我 我唱着的歌你会懂
还在说我的眼眶里 已经泪光闪烁

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this song is specially dedicated for the friend who is going away from Malaysia.

finally get fish's new album...
hope it will help me go through the days without you.
or all the while you are not around.. it's just that i do not wanna admit it.
you are just a passanger who had went trough a short journey with me.

and for now.. we have to be seperated and go for our own seperate way.
but do hope that you are okay and everything works well for you :)

wonder what is holding me back...
why i'm hesitating...
what is holding me back from working very hard as a staff..
being paid too low...

erm... i like satisfaction in work rather than high pay?

~~~~~~~~~ to be continue~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

today we had a gathering at mc d.. and the above are photo taken during the gathering...

瑄:卸下美丽的外壳
透明的我们还剩下什么
爱情就像水晶球
坚固而脆弱

格:一个人也需自由
两个人而感动大过天空
喜怒哀乐统统拥有
不让你恨留

baby I Still Believe
我也可以走过峦流
紧紧握住双手
一秒就够 不孤单寂寞

baby I Still Believe
爱要有梦才会快乐
就算未来的路不同
你在我心中
到永久。。


卸下美丽的外壳
透明的我们还剩下什么
爱情就像水晶球
坚固而脆弱

一个人也需自由
两个人而感动大过天空
喜怒哀乐统统拥有
不让你恨留

合:baby I Still Believe
爱也可以走过挽留
轻轻握住双手
一秒就够 不孤单寂寞

baby I Still Believe
爱要有梦才会快乐
就算未来的路不同
你在我心中到永久

感觉很闷时候
我抱你在我胸口
当你泪留的时候

合:我在这里补痛 NO
瑄:爱散发的温柔
在此刻用心感受
我想和你一起让幸福转动

合:baby I Still Believe
爱也可以走过峦流
紧紧握住双手
一秒就够 不孤单寂寞

baby I Still Believe
爱要有梦才快乐
就算未来的路不同
你和我到永久

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my colleague say this song is nice.. so i went to get it...
erm...sounds okay to me :)

我曾深刻体会 对爱感到胆怯
还好有懂我的你 给我安慰

看你失落的脸 又再为爱憔悴
我心痛的感觉竟如此的强烈

眼角的泪 它给过谁
伤透了心 也无所谓
我会愿意 静静地
陪在你身边

如果说爱 已不可为
那我宁愿 藏心里面
其实我害怕会失去你的感觉

怎么会开始对你有了感觉
又深怕朋友默契转身不见
矛盾着犹豫不决
没准备 跨越爱的界线

怎么会开始对你有了感觉
深陷朋友恋人之间的危险
进与退 被爱包围
谁犯规 都狼狈
谁能解围 让一切完美

怎么会开始对你有了感觉
深陷朋友恋人之间的危险
你和我 拥抱瞬间
不后悔 这暧昧
星光唯美 把爱放心里面

Joe was not a very romantic person, and furthermore he was rather stupid. But he wanted to impress his wife, so he took her out for an anniversary dinner and watched the couples around them, following their leads.

He observed the couple next to him. The man lifted a sugar shaker towards his wife's cup and said, "Sugar, sugar?" Joe thought this was great and continued to listen around the dining room.
Another table over Joe observed the following. A man spooned out some honey out of a bowl for his wife and asked, "Honey, honey?"
Again Joe thought this was good stuff.

Finally, he cut off a piece of his meat, stared longingly into his young wife's eyes and said, "Ham, pig?"

~~很棒的文章~~~(that's why my friend told me)

一日，與德國回來的朋友索華在外灘茶座小聚，很自然聊起有關女人的話題，她很感慨地對我說：『國內做女人成本太高。』

國內有些媒體總在報導怎麼樣才更有魅力？要三圍，要穿漂亮的衣裳，要做皮膚護理，講究化妝技巧；要怎麼樣修煉自己怎麼樣拴住男人的心，抓心還要抓胃……這樣做女人豈不是成本太高呢？最後修煉得面目全非，與真實的自己背道而馳。

索華說：『在國外對魅力的理解很大程度上就是有發自內心的微笑。』你走在街上迎面走來一個女人，她絕對不會板著臉，而會主動向你微笑示意，這微笑是發自內心的。

在國外，講究自然，與大自然親近，女人們喜歡栽花種草喝茶做女紅，這些被中國女人早就摒棄的東西，對她們來說卻是樂此不疲，因為有動手的樂趣;曬太陽，把自己曬成古銅色，誰最健康誰就最美麗，而不是比誰的皮膚最白。

索華給我講了她在德國朋友圈裏的一次小聚會，大家總是把自己在家裏烘焙好的點心，帶到其中一個朋友的後花園裏，大家坐在草地上曬太陽聊天，就覺得很好了。幾乎是沒有成本的，收穫的卻是滿滿的快樂。她們利用的都是大自然所賦予的東西，陽光、綠色和勞動。

午後的陽光照下來，索華喝了一口茶，提到了低成本做女人，一個女人在這個世界中越是發自內心地生活，她的附加成本就越低。她就不會為別人過多地改變自己。這裏最關鍵的是有底氣(核心競爭力)。索華的話讓我沉思良久。

我認識一個女孩，每月化妝品上千元，每次不化妝不出門，為了減肥，每次只吃一小碗飯；另一個朋友，因為嫌自己胸部太平，不能讓先生滿意，花了上萬元偷偷去做了隆胸，結果手術不成功苦不堪言，面目憔悴。

我記得我看到她時，內心湧起的是一種無限的悲哀，一個女人怎麼樣才能做回自己呢？那就是有自由的眼神和心靈，不用受別人的控制。

跟索華提起，她輕歎了一口氣，她說：『她認識的一些國外的朋友好像沒有這種不自信，不管身材好不好，她們都敢穿不帶海綿的胸衣，因為身體是自己的，自己喜歡就行了啊！』

索華接著往下說：『好像她們什麼年齡就做什麼年齡的事，不著急也不落後,從從容容，該生孩子就生孩子，很少有女人為了工作不想要小孩的。』

索華的話讓我想起身邊很多女人都在忙工作，一幫職場女白領，絕對精英人物。曾見過一位事業很成功的女人，別人都很羨莫，她卻歎了一口氣說：『我現在很後悔，該戀愛的時候沒戀愛，我的青春流逝了；該結婚時沒結婚,等再想結婚時，卻找不到合適的，只能降低條件；該要孩子的時候沒要孩子，等到想要的時候，別人的孩子已大了，我怎麼也感覺跟不上趟了。』

每個年齡都有那個年齡該做的事。不然，你的成本就太高了，代價太大了，只是不知你承不承受得起呢？

我對索華說：『妳就是低成本做女人的典範。』她不漂亮，卻極有味道

一個女人是有磁場的，這種磁場來源於她自由的內心。索華從不化妝，更談不上整形，她說一番整潔就好了，微笑是她最好的化妝品。她懂得以內養外，大量吃水果青菜，便宜簡單清清淡淡，卻是極養顏的；她關注
生命，談環保，衣服只穿純棉和麻，不貴卻都極有特點，鞋子只穿低跟，因為舒適美觀，雖然她個子不高；長長的直髮，留了很多年，不染不燙也不做造型，打理頭髮幾乎不花錢，只用一把好梳子就可以了；她從不上健身房，不追逐時尚，因為她始終堅持內心的方向，她每天堅持步行，曬曬太陽走走路就是極好的鍛煉了，不用任何成本並且環保。

她說：『外貌實際上是一個女人的夕陽產業，投資越大，收益是越小。』

26歲時，索華放棄了一份升遷的工作從容地要了孩子，她的身體恢復得很快，如今36歲，孩子也大了；她也從不討好她的老公，從不學什麼馴夫技巧，絕對地放養，老公卻很愛她，總誇她是個有特點的女人，不流俗。

她說：『好女人是創造氛圍的，她喜歡看書，誰規定主婦一定要填飽老公的胃呢？』

她赤足坐在客廳的地上看書，也帶動孩子，還要放上舒緩優美的鄉村音樂，一家人的氣氛就這麼形成了，沒費吹灰之力，孩子也形成了愛看書的習慣；她喜歡大自然，就帶上老公孩子一起玩。

她這個主婦當得雲淡風輕

當我向她訴苦說女人帶孩子太累時，她笑笑說：『讓孩子圍著你轉啊！女人是可以製造氛圍的。』她是家中的一個磁場，不改變自己，不取悅別人，卻照樣很滋潤，並且一家人生活極有質量。這是跟物質無關的，一個心靈自由的女人才能把家庭的生活拓展開來。跟索華分手後，我還在想索華說的低成本做女人，真是妙極！

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don't really understand what is it in relation to but just keep it here,
and read it again in the future maybe i'll have a different comment.