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My friend and I was discussing about her parents letting her to go out during night time with friends for "yam cha" session.
Sometimes I feel that maybe yes we already grow up, but the worries from our parents does not go away that easily. I think is not that they do not trust us enough to give us freedom. It's just that the safety in Malaysia is so bad that it alarmed the concerned of parents, even though their kids is old enough to have their own KEY.
I guess nobody would want themselves to turn up to be one of the news in the papers one day. As such I guess we need to sacrifice a bit by not going out for "yam cha" session during night time.
However, on the other hand, it still voice down to the negotiation skills that whether we are able to convince our parents to allow us to go out at night. My hubby gave me a very good point / action plan that what should be done that I did not do well previously.
Sometimes I feel that maybe yes we already grow up, but the worries from our parents does not go away that easily. I think is not that they do not trust us enough to give us freedom. It's just that the safety in Malaysia is so bad that it alarmed the concerned of parents, even though their kids is old enough to have their own KEY.
I guess nobody would want themselves to turn up to be one of the news in the papers one day. As such I guess we need to sacrifice a bit by not going out for "yam cha" session during night time.
However, on the other hand, it still voice down to the negotiation skills that whether we are able to convince our parents to allow us to go out at night. My hubby gave me a very good point / action plan that what should be done that I did not do well previously.
- Tell them where you exactly going and what is the expected time that you are coming back. Try not to be too late if your parents is waiting at the living hall for you to be back
- Let them know the phone number of friends that are "yam cha"-ing with you and try your best to bring them to your house so that your parents would know who are those people that you are going out with.
- Let your parents get used to you going out late by going according to their conditions.
I guess this would more or less helped to give an idea on how to handle your parents?
But most importantly, freedom does not come when you are not breathing. I would think safety always come first. Our parents does not really want to restrict us but always they have the worries on what we are doing no matter how old we are.
Think of your parents before you decide to do something for yourself...
LOVE and PEACE :)
I agree. When we were young we always wanted "freedom" from our parents. We wanted to go anywhere we want without them questioning. But as I grow older, I can really understand their worries and concern. Similarly, if I expect to see my parents at a specific time and I don't see them, I'll be worried too. I think the key is to communicate with them.